So today’s post is going to be a little bit different than usual. Every year as the temperatures begin to rise, and the clothes become skimpier and skimpier, there is always a huge push for “getting in shape for summer.” While it is completely normal for people to want to tone up after a season of over indulging, it seems that girls, and even guys are becoming harder and harder on themselves regarding their own appearances.
Oftentimes, girls have it in their head that they need to look a certain way to be appealing. The criticism starts as early as middle school, and continues to grow as one gets older. In some ways it seems that this situation is getting better, but in some ways it is getting worse. There has certainly been more attention given to body image; but recently, girls are constantly attempting to “fit a certain mold,” instead of be the best version of themselves they can be.
In the past couple of years there have been several body “trends,” including the “thigh gap” on one end of the spectrum, and “bringing booty back” on another. Both of these trends are telling girls they should change their body in order to be beautiful.
But let me tell you a little secret… nobody is perfect…
And no BODY is perfect. Perfection is a subjective term; if you are attempting to please everyone, you are setting yourself up for failure. Perfection is learning to love your imperfections just as much as your blessings… and who is to say your flaws are even flaws? Since everyone has their own vision of beauty, what you may find unappealing may be the very reason someone is drawn to you.
My height used to be a huge insecurity for me. I am about 5 1′, while my twelve year old sister is already five inches taller than me, and still growing. My other sister, who is 5 8,’ and two years younger than me has always been mistaken as the older sister. Just recently I went to an event at her school, where a teacher (who I had) looked at me and said “… and this must be your obviously much younger sister…” Ouch…
But guess what?
It doesn’t bother me like it used to. In fact, if I had the option to change my height, I wouldn’t… not even if you paid me. I learned to love my height. I can wear heels and wedges, I don’t have to worry about my date being taller than me (that is if I had a date…), and I can get away with not putting away hard-to-reach dishes.
In all seriousness, it is much easier to find flaws in yourself than it is to find flaws in others. I have realized that people often see you in a much better light than you see yourself, and if someone does criticize you, don’t take it personally. Oftentimes criticism is more of a reflection upon one’s own confidence… if someone truly didn’t care about you, they wouldn’t bother to say anything at all.
Once you fully embrace and love yourself for who you are, then there really isn’t a need to put others down. Let me end this post with a question…
What makes a person fun to be around?
Chances are your answer wasn’t: because they look like a model. The reason that wasn’t your answer is because you know deep down that looks aren’t really that important. This may seem ironic coming from a fashion blogger… but for me fashion is a way to express myself, have fun, and feel confident. There is also nothing wrong with that. It is okay to feel beautiful, to enjoy dressing up, or to spend too much time getting ready in the morning (cough, cough- me).
However, It’s not okay to put others down… including yourself. It may take some time, but everyone should learn to embrace their imperfections, and not try to change for someone else. Learn to love that booty whether it’s big or small, appreciate you athletic legs, and be proud of your curves. Go out there and rock it!
Also, let me know in the comments:
What do you like about you friends?
What do you love most about your body?
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